Well with the new year comes some fantastic news, I got the call!
At 5:30am on the 18th Dec in fact. The voice of the transplant coordinator calmly informing me that they may have a kidney for me and to make my way in asap. The best news possible for a kidney patient while tinged with a sadness knowing someone had passed away earlier who had signed the donor register for people like me.
I had started dialysis for the second time three years ago in September just passed and have been waiting on the list for roughly three years. I had gotten myself into such a daily habit that I’d nearly given up on the hope of one day returning to a relatively normal life.
In the end I was called up to theatre ahout 7am on the 19th, and I can only assume it went well as I woke up in the recovery room shortly to be moved back up to ward. Going for a pee… one of the things most take for granted…. I hadn’t peed in about two years, so it was a special moment when I finally went!
It still seems remarkable that they released me on Christmas day and I was able to celebrate with my family and friends…however in hindsight I should have taken it easy and stayed indoors over the following week as I was back in hospital with a tummy bug and missed new years eve! Still even that couldn’t dampen my spirits and im happy to say that even though it’s still early days I feel fantastic if a little sore.
I’d like to say thankyou to all who stood by me particularly my girlfriend, my family and my friends, and also the dialysis team at my local hospital the QE who put up with me!
Im now hopeful that I can live my life more under my terms and get outhere and enjoy what life brings
Once again I have been lax in updating my blog so a recap is in order methinks.
The London bridges walk came and went. I’m still in the process of collecting our sponsorship monies but we hope to have raised approx £700 which considering that the banks of the world have most of the money in the world and are disinclined to share right now, isn’t too bad.
The day itself started a little damp to say the least and what was supposed to be a joyous purple procession began more like a purple rain coated race.
The weather did pick up however and all in all it was a great day, and I wasn’t last like last year which is always a bonus…
Relationship wise things are complicated (aren’t they always?)
My girlfriend is still beautiful and still putting up with me, but her leaving for university looms large on both our minds and thoughts are inevitably drawn to the well known fact that relationships often break down when one of the two spreads their wings and flies away for three or four years.. :-\
For my part I think it’s an essential that she have the chance to experience uni and gain not only the qualification but the life experience that student life brings as well, I remember my time only too well, the amazing with the hardships. It was never dull that’s
So here’s to my wonderful girlfriend, may she enjoy her student years and grasp everything life has to offer, and may her boobs fall to the floor and her bum balloon if she forgets about me… 😛
Firstly, sorry for not posting in like forever! Time has passed, Im still on dialysis and still waiting for a transplant but overall in myself I am fine. I recently had another assessment and they are happy with me and are keeping me on the waiting list. My girlfriend is still fantastic and I’m still smug!
The London Bridges Walk has come around again already and this year we are priming up for a larger group of us to take part. So far there are 7 of us shortly to be wondering around Norfolk with our sponsorship forms waving in our hands but just in case we don’t bump into you in person you can go to the Kidney Research UK fundraisers page and donate online to our cause at (drum roll please…) http://www.kidneyresearchukevents.org/narborough
Well now its been a while since I’ve blogged and its been an eventful couple of months…..
And the news is that the special someone I mentioned in a previous post who kept me afloat, who put an arm around me at my time of need is now that special someone I can hold close and kiss with all my heart freely. 🙂
Yes folks the impossible has happened…. I’ve fallen in love with someone who accepts me, my faults and hang-ups! Right now I’m the happiest man I know.
And to steal yet another quote, yet it describes exactly how I feel: “I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you.”
Well Sunday the 10th July finally arrived! My friend Dessie and I had been raising funds for the walk for a couple of months prior and can proudly say as I type so far we have raised over £1100 for Kidney Research UK, so thank you to everyone who was kind enough to give, and a big thank you to the girls at the social club for walking round with the sponsorship forms!
Two friends accompanied us on the day, Our Social Club Steward Chris Harfield and a friend Carol Brownley. Chris H kindly offered to drive, an offer that was snatched upon! The weather was perfect to go with the perfect company and when we arrived to register for the walk Chris and Carol decided to postpone their shopping trip and promptly registered as well! (Thanks again guys)
London Bridges Walk
Apparently there were approximately 1000 people taking part in the walk which started at 11am at Potters Field on the south bank near Tower Bridge after an intro & count down by Angela Rippon.
All in all it was a fantastic day and witnessing the sea of purple clad people walking the Embankment was a sight I shall not soon forget!
Hopefully the walk has raised awareness as well as raised funds for Kidney Research UK and I’m already looking forward to next year!
Well its under a month now to the big day! My friend Dessie and I are on track to meet our target of raising £1000 for Kidney Research UK. Our information packs along with our race/walk number and most importantly our purple t-shirts have arrived! Its all getting very exciting!
Debating whether or not to go the whole hog an dye my hair purple?!
Kirstie Mills is a Life Life the Give Life Ambassador. She is 21 and has Cystic Fibrosis “She is in desperate need of a double lung transplant and declining rapidly. Doctors told her last month that she has approximately six months left to live without one.”-lltgl
Thursday the 6th June saw Kirstie fulfill her dream to marry her fiance Stu.
Many congratulations to you both and my thoughts and prayers are with you in the hope you get your transplant and a chance of a well deserved happy life together! Click here for video Click here for Kirstie’s Blog
So after a few false starts, fingers crossed I will have the opportunity along with my friend Dessie to raise money for Kidney Research UK. We are taking part in the London Bridges Walk and trying to raise money and awareness for the charity along with 100’s of others on the day I hope!
The walk takes place on the 10th July and incorporates 8 of London’s bridges over about 7 miles.
With me (touch wood) running on a fairly even keel at the moment and with my friend there to help hopefully it should be a great day out!
Thank you Mr Lennon for the title quote. A comment that strikes a particular chord with me.
I’ve spent a lot of time either putting off plans until I’m lucky enough to have a transplant, or making tentative plans for after I’ve been lucky enough to have a transplant. The truth is though that life is passing by while I have refused to make or carry out plans for the short and medium term.
And somewhere along the way I’ve started to lose my sense of humour as well – something I need to remedy! So its settled, I’m going to be a famous photographer, musician and swimming athlete after my transplant, though granted probably not all at the same time…. Now what to do in the meantime?!
I’m hoping to move shortly to a place of my own, a little piece of imaginary independence, quite important to all of us as we get older! And employment? Well I’m still looking, still applying, still waiting, ever hopeful! I did stop long enough to evaluate what would be my perfect job if everything was hunkydory which was basically to use the skills I have gained over 35 years to try and help others. Ideally photography would be in the mix somewhere, although if necessary it would be a way of bringing in a little extra spending money in my spare time. So to that effect I’ve started homing in on the areas of employment that are aimed at helping people, typically called the Third Sector in this country, somewhere in-between the Public and Private Sector, where both private and public donations are used to fund improvements to the lives of those of us not so fortunate.
Live Life Then Give Life
Those of you of a healthy disposition I beg to spend ten minutes looking at this link: LLTGL Life Stories.
Even those of you without a healthy disposition! After finding out that I could myself donate my organs should the worst happen I joined the donor register online. Apparently 3 people die every day in the UK while waiting for a transplant…
If you’re feeling particularly keen about raising awareness as I am, I can recommend the T shirt which can be ordered from the following page: Clicky
I’ve certainly turned a few heads walking around town wearing one!
Finally a special thank you to a special someone.
I wont deny that the last few months have been challenging in the extreme. My parents business struggling, my low self-esteem, a couple of health scares, worry over my transplant assessment, depression over dialysis and general loneliness to mention a few (crikey what a whinge!)
Somewhere along the line someone broke down my carefully placed barriers, got inside, put an arm around me and somehow kept me afloat, that special someone means the world to me.
I wish things could be different so you could always keep me afloat, and I wish you could see for yourself how special you are, but alas you’re destined to make some other git happy!
I on the other hand will have to keep on looking for “Someone Like You” 😉